Hey Everyone,

I hope you are doing well and that your week is going great so far. This year I have found it quite challenging to write my blogs and even writing my new book. Writing my blogs is something I am passionate about, anyone who knows me well, is well aware of how much I love these, but I have found it difficult to get in the headspace, finding the enthusiasm with everything that is going on around the world. Writing has always been my escape. I try to make my blogs light, relatable and as inspiring as I can. Yet, when I am writing my books, it is the complete opposite, and for those who have read my book Moore, Than a Pretty Face, would understand that due to it being a psychological thriller, it’s more on the dark side, than the light and positive. So, I decided that if I couldn’t see the light, I was going to become the light!

I have found through this time that I am having to reshuffle the thoughts in my head, and have had a lot of time to discover things about myself I was not aware of. I have spoken a lot in the past about self-love. Self-love is a subject that I am extremely passionate about, because sadly the majority of the population don’t feel comfortable in their own skin and I so badly want that to change. We have one body, and only one life and we need to live and appreciate what we do have, instead of criticizing and wishing for something else.

This week I would like to talk about something that is as important as loving yourself and this subject is something that helps with the healing process and self-acceptance, and that is letting go. Holding on to grudges, anger, love, loss, betrayal and situations, is only creating painful memories and is locking you up in chains, making you feel less than you actually are, and only preventing you from new experiences. Letting go is hard, but holding on is harder and only uses more of your precious and limited time, and drains you of your energy.

We hold on to all kinds of things in our lives, people, jobs and situations that just don’t work out as planned and that is okay. Life is not perfect and the more you hold on, the more you force and control something, the more out of reach it will become.

One of my favourite quotes:

In the end only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you.

-—Buddha.

Everything we do is a choice, whether we like it not. How we choose to think, react and what we believe is true for us, is a choice. That’s the difficult part. Learning how to shift this pain and blame to forgiveness is easier said than done, I know! But it is something that is necessary for your own personal growth as well as your own happiness.

Sometimes we don’t realise that we can be our own worst enemies. We hold ourselves back from opportunities because we were caught up in the traumas of the past, we cannot see the opportunities at present, and sadly miss them. Know that by forgiving someone, doesn’t mean that you are approving how they wronged you, rather its no longer allowing their wrong to define you.

So, from here on in, if something doesn’t make you happy or stronger as a person, just let it go! Release any emotions, grudges or disappointments from the past that no longer serve you. Be brave, because there is a beautiful path waiting for you when you forgive yourself, the situation and others. Know that when you forgive, you are setting a prisoner free, and you will soon discover that the only prisoner all along was you! So always remember that when you forgive, you heal and when you let go, you grow!

I hope you all have a wonderful rest of your week, be true and kind to one another and please remember… Every day is a new day to try, you can quit your day job, just don’t ever give up on yourself or your dream.

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